God gave me another Angel

As most of you may know, my first wife and my first angel, Martha,  died of stage iv brain cancer. To be honest, I never thought about getting married, especially no time soon. Yes, maybe someone to talk to or even a companion but never marriage. Matter of fact, Martha said she knew I would get married again and hoped I would. I never really liked the idea of talking about that subject while my spouse was still living, even though I knew she was trying to encourage me and to say I needed to move on after she was gone.

It was very hard being alone again because when you have been with someone for over 34 years it gets very lonely all of a sudden. I real quickly found myself in this big two story house with no one to share it with. Yes, my children were there; but, they  had to deal with the loss of there mother also. I think they either kept busy so they wouldn’t have to think about it or they wanted to be with there friends to talk about it. I don’t know, maybe both, and because of that they were not home that much. I’m not saying they didn’t care about their Dad grieving; but, they had to grieve in their own way.  My daughter would constantly ask me , “Dad are you doing ok?” I would respond yes I’m doing ok. My son on the other hand would say, “Mom is having a party in heaven!”

I finally went back to work a week after the funeral. Some may say that’s too soon but I say it was the right time. I needed to go to work because it got my mind off things. I work in a hospital here locally. I take medical supplies up on the various units that I work. The nurses all knew my situation. Matter of fact, many of the nurses donated some of there time so I could have off to be with my wife. Many also told how they were praying for me. Wow! what more could you ask for from a place where you work.

I knew a lot of the nurses in the hospital  especially on the floors where I work. I am a friendly type of guy and would always speak and be cordial to everyone. Then along came Linda. To be honest, I didn’t know Linda nor had I ever met her. I think she was off most of the days I came on the unit or was in the back helping babies. The secretary of the unit had paged me one day to bring up some blue bins to put medical supplies in because they needed them over in the resuscitation room and there would be a nurse to meet me over there and her name was Linda Crowder.

I met Linda for the first time and we barely talked. We were cordial to one another but that was about it. I handed her the blue bins and she said thank you or maybe there could have been some small talk but I guess it was too small to remember. Soon Linda would come to find out that I was the guy that everyone was talking about that lost his wife. Not long afterwards we began talking a little more after the first meeting when I saw her.

I soon found out she had lost her spouse six years ago to heart disease and had a difficult time after he died. I got bold and began to ask her questions about the struggles she had and soon found out I was going through some of the same things: weight loss, body ailments, and sleepless nights to name a few. I soon realized God had brought her into my life.  We had a bond that was forming and we could easily  talk.

I knew this was a God thing because God kept letting us cross paths in various places outside of the hospital, even places where I did not normally go. She was so kind hearted and knowing what we had been through she offered to give my family her tickets  to the NC theatre to see Beauty and the Beast performance — to put some enjoyment back in our life. She had four tickets and we only needed three, so I insisted she go with us.

Well, as you may know, God began to put things in order and we got engaged in January and married in May.  Some may say that is way to soon and others  may say it’s ok.   I really don’t care; because,  I just know God gave me another Angel.